A quick update on all things

Things, as always, have been nothing short of chaos for the first half of this month. There are times that my beloved and I just want to kick back, relax, and breathe a little.  But, no, that is not how things are.

  1. I think that we were a little taken aback by how much the daily vlogs for Cranio Acceptance Month were going to wipe us out. It took us over a week to just recover from the grind.
  2. We were able to take a small vacation to the beach with the family. It was a much needed break. Kati and I were on the tail end of exhaustion. But it was so good to be able to see the family.
  3. I am preparing to run a rather large group for Dungeons & Dragons. This is extremely exciting, but there is so much work that goes into running a game. I have worked hard to update and reconfigure my home office to accommodate for game night. Now, I have a little over a week, to test all of the systems and prepare for awesomeness.
  4. Kati has been doing an awesome job for her role as an Usborne consultant. She has learned a ton, in very short time. Every party that she hosts is exiting. It does often mean that our conversations late at night are dominated by ideas, but I think it is cute and I love it.
  5. Zoey has lost her hearing aids twice in the last three weeks. Want to know what can stop everything in a household. Have a $2500 medical device go missing. These are critical because Zoey has been doing such an amazing job with her speech therapy. From the moment that she has put her ‘super ears’ in she has rocked it.
  6. Jacob is nearly walking. By that, I mean he is at 6-7 steps in a row. It is amazing to see the look on his face when he is walking around. His smile is amazing.
  7. Both Zoey and David are killing it with homeschool this semester. David is doing an amazing job with addition and subtraction. Both are starting to read. Considering that neither would be in school yet (Virginia law states that if a child is going to start, the must start by the year that they are six), I am ecstatic at what they can do.
  8. Last but not least, we were surprised to find out that our daughter will have her yearly craniofacial clinic in early November, rather than December. For those that read my beloveds post about cranio, this is when things get real for us. We know that there are more surgeries coming, we are exactly where they said we would be when forecasting when we would be discussing the next one. My heart… well, my heart resides in my children, but I do not know if my body can take the stress that I am feeling right now. I am sure that we will talk about that more once we know more.
  9. Seven years ago (last week) my beloved and I went on our first date. Time flies, make sure you live in the little moments.

That is all I have for you guys right now. Thanks for hanging in there on our crazy, chaotic, life. We are doing the best we can to…

Live big, love bigger, and be kind, always.

Day 27: A Quote You Try To Live By

Oh this one is too easy. For over a year I have been ending every post with the same quote. It is what we are trying to instill in our children, and the guideposts that we have on our own life. Today, I will dissect it a little bit more than I have in the past.

Live Big

This could mean a multitude of things. It is a matter of perspective. But, as a part of the total quote, and in the eyes of my family, it means something rather specific. For us, it is a total detraction from what many think. This quote does not mean to have the nicest car, largest house, or flashiest bank account. Living big means to make the most of what you have.

In order to live big, you must know where you are. It is difficult not to outlive our means in this world. But there are amazing thing that we can do, to enhance our experience and time on this big blue marble. As the kids grow, there will be hiking, camping, canoeing, and sailing as they expand their horizons. Living big means being able to make it, on your own, and help others along the way.

Love Bigger

Much like living big, loving bigger is about knowing what the baseline should be. The mere fact that the adjective is a greater form than the one used for big, is important. The use of ‘bigger’ means that it should be far more evident, this love that you emit, than the life that you live. It should be ‘bigger’ than yourself.

Love like this cannot come from a place of seclusion. It comes from a raw awareness of the world. Understanding the hearts of those around you lets you amplify the love that you can bring into this world. It is also more demanding than living big. Living requires solace and self-awareness, while loving means letting yourself be open to the harshness that can exist.

Be Kind

If one is living big, and loving bigger, they should be able to be kind. You have to be cognizant of so many things. Being kind requires you to treat others BETTER than you wish to be treated, regardless of what they say or do. It is that aspect of this quote, which makes it the hardest.

All these things we try to do always. It is not meant to be an easy thing to do. It is demanding. Very demanding. But, in teaching these things to our children, and expecting it from them, we are doing something awesome. We are starting the ripples, which this world so desperately needs, to change things, for the better.

Live big, love bigger, and be kind, always.

Though she be but little,

She be fierce.

I’m continue reminded of the weight behind this phrase. During my daughters life she has shown me countless ways that, though she did not have a choice to be strong, how strong she truly is. There’s also the continual reminder of the symbiotic relationship when it comes to how strong she has shown me that I can be, stronger than I ever thought I could be.

Today was the strongest reminder for that I’ve had in recent time. For today I watched my daughter, my sweet, independent, amazing little girl, take down a girl twice he size.

Shortly after taking the photo that I posted this morning, I noticed that at the top of where they were climbing in the bounce house there was a girl that was a little bit too rowdy. This was noticed by many of the other parents who are standing around around me, as one could tell by the bemoaning phrases being muttered underneath all of our breath.

I washed my darling little boy slid down the slide with an amazing smile, and the high-pitched laughter of a toddler having the time of his life. He then stood up and bounced over to another part of the bounce house and was gleefully hopping as happy as he could be. He was followed shortly by the girl, who had pushed other kids out of the way, and slid down rather fast. To my horror, I watched from a distance as she pushed my son down to the ground causing him to cry.

Now, I am NOT a small man. And when I speak it is not often in a meek and gentle voice. So when I proclaimed a very loud and exalted “Hey!”, some could say that the air shook with my anger. There was an intense ripple of the parents standing around me as they shuttered out of surprise of my voice. The girl turned to face me. This is when things got awesome.

My darling little girl had slid down and watched as her brother was pushed to the ground by girl twice her size, to be honest and fair she was probably close to 7 or 8 years old. Without hesitation, there was a wicked little grin, that I know all too well, that grew across her face as she took off. My daughter leaped through the air a d hit the girl squarely behind the knees, taking her down to the ground swiftly.

This brought an equally impressive “hey!” from the father standing next to me, that i came to realize was the father of the girl that my daughter had just knocked down. I looked at him, with amusement in my eyes, and said, “I think she was just protecting her little brother”. To which he chuckled and stated “I think she deserved it”.

Without missing a beat, my daughter then stood up grabbed her little brother, kissed him on the cheek and walked him over to where I was standing with the crowd of completely bewildered parents. In her wake she left a girl twice her size wallowing and wailing with crocodile tears and utter shock. As I looked around me I saw many nods and smiles. I collected my children, and did what any dad would do in the situation. As it was 35 degrees out I opted to get them both a slice of pizza as reward for what she had done.

Say what you will about the way that I am taking the situation on, but I could not be happier. In fact here I am many hours later, smiling from ear to ear as I write this.

I AM A CRANIO DAD, I am scared out of my mind, and yes…. She be fierce.