The Importance of Video for our Children

We live in a state where technology surrounds us.  It is a part of all that we do. Quicker access to take pictures, and video, of our daily lives seem trivial to some.  But, as we are getting back into the swing of things, this state is not lost on me. In fact, I noticed something last night that made me pause. Something awesome.

In the middle of archiving a video that we shot a few weeks ago, I decided to watch it. Normally, I do not do this. I just drag it to the archive, wait for the prompt to finish and move on. But, I double clicked, and it played. Having some time, I decided to sit back and watch the video play.  I listened as my beloved narrated the scene, and watched as Zoey and David played.  Their laughter filled my ears.  I listened as Zoey ‘spoke’ with David about the tower they were building. Upon hearing this, I was startled. I sat up and rewound it. Playing it over and over again. With each repeat of Zoey’s ‘speech’ a smile broadened upon my face.
Zoey building a tower for the videoDavid getting ready for a video about building a tower

Why did Zoey’s ‘speech’ on the video cause me to pause?

I reference Zoey’s speech abilities with quotes here because, well. Let’s talk about that for a second. Due to the structural issues that Zoey was born with, due to her Craniosynostosis, things like eating and speech have never come easy to her. We have been thankful that David, since very early on, seems to be able to understand her, perhaps even better than we do.

But that is the thing. Kati and I can often understand what Zoey is trying to say. We live in this world where many around us look to us with a perplexed smile as they wait for us to decipher.  We roll with it. But, we often lose sight of the advancement she is making.  Watching this video, I realized that in just the last few weeks some astonishing advancements have been made.

It caused me to reflect to the other night.  After cleaning up the dishes from dinner, I handed Zoey a bowl of ice cream. As I stepped away from the table a sweet sound came from behind me.  My daughter saying, clear as day, “thank you daddy”.

Why the video we take is important to us?

The videos that we are capturing are not for vanity. They are to show us the steps that our children are taking. They are moments in time, forever captured, to show where they are.  Down the line, we can reflect at where they have been, and see the huge strides they have made along the way. These videos are the archive of our successes, and failures, as we teach our children how to…

Live big, love bigger, and be kind, always.

Fatherhood: to carry on the conversation from the Vlog

Fatherhood has to be one of the toughest things I have ever embarked upon.  It is also the thing that brings me some of the greatest joy.

Important Note:

IF you have not seen the vlog that this post pertains too, stop what you are doing and go to the link here:

Vlog

And spend less than eight minuets getting to know me a little better. I will be referencing things that I spoke about in this video here, and context may be important.

Ok, back to what I was saying:

Now that you have watched the video, let us continue on with the conversation.

Right out of the gate, I want to thank those of you that have been following along for the last few years.  Our journey has been rather unique, to say the least, but I hope that you have seen that I try to make the best of it.

I guess that I could roll up the topics into a few points, and discuss them a little further here.  Please bear in mind that we are still figuring out how things are going to work with our Blog and Vlog, so let’s see how this works!

Fatherhood:

From the beginning, my adventure into fatherhood has been overwhelming. Not many parents have the ‘opportunity’ to get to know their child as well as Kati and I did.  With all of the tests and conversations that surrounded Zoey (many still do to this day), we had the opportunity to get to see how her bones were developing, how her brain looks, and much more.  However, looking back, I see that I had a choice that I had to make early on.  I could either embrace Cranio, and all that it brings into our lives, or I could live in fear of it.  Out of the shear love of my daughter, I faced cranio, and have embraced it.

It is interesting to realize that in these (almost) five, short, years the ways that I have learned to be a dad.  I saw a quote the other day that stated motherhood was natural and fatherhood was a social construct.  Now, I could fly off about the wording of that quote, or, I can point out the flaws.  Simply, the social construct that surrounds fatherhood is a carryover from the 50’s.  There are currently so many working on changing this view. I, proudly, am one of them.  The concept of fatherhood needs an overhaul, just as much as does the concept of what makes a man.

Soapbox moment (sorry):

The topic of fatherhood makes me emotional.  For some of you, it was plan to see in my video.  There is a love that burns like the fire of a thousand suns for my children.  Fatherhood has placed my heart on my sleeve, and I am not at all worried about it. Far to often the voices of dad’s goes unheard.  This is based on the social construct that dad’s have little to do with raising their children.  They just go to work, come home, and help.  This social construct surrounding fatherhood does not stand in MANY of the households that I know of. It surely does not hold in mine.  It is part of my journey of fatherhood to show this to my children. To have my daughter know what to expect, and my sons to know what is expected.

 

How has it made me a ‘damn good dad’?

I really do mean what I said in the video regarding not taking the title of “Cranio Dad” lightly.  For all the ups and downs that I have been through this far, Fatherhood has been a grand adventure.  I have been able to take so much about what I have had to learn to be the kind of father that Zoey needs, and apply it to how I am raising David and Jacob.  By ensuring that there is equal 1:1 time, that I focus on the activities that bring them wonder, and by getting to know them, I am taking all the steps that I can to be the dad that EACH of them needs.

Needs vary greatly, and every child is different.  One of the biggest things that I learned as I entered fatherhood is that we need to pause, as parents, and wait to see who each child is going to be. That is the hard part, and also the avenue to produce the greatness that we strive for as parents. Waiting. Letting our little ones show us who they are, what they like, what interests they hold dear. It sucks, but I would rather be their champion than their absent-minded coach. Perhaps that is why I feel I am doing my best to be a damn good dad.  Because, even though I do not take fatherhood lightly, but I look at it differently than most.

Well, that does it for now.  As we keep saying, please feel free to continue this conversation with us.  Subscribe to our blog for daily snippets, our vlog for more conversations, and comment with your thoughts.  We want to hear what you think, even if it differs greatly from our point of view.

Live big, love bigger, and be kind, always.